LynaHafiz blogs

HELLO 2012

2012-01-28T22:54:00.000+08:00

*my life 2012

HAPPY 5TH MONTH RAYYAN!

2011-10-22T10:20:00.007+08:00

*excuse my seriousness. i'm a big baby now, that's why :)

Happy 5th month sayang!!! Jangan kasi mummy stress2 ok baby :)

MY STRUGGLE

2011-10-19T10:00:00.001+08:00

One fine day, I will post about my struggles with PPD or Post Partum Depression. Had it once, and having it again now...

May Allah guide me through my struggles.

HELPING A BREASTFED BABY ACCEPT A BOTTLE

2011-10-18T17:53:00.000+08:00

Helping a Breastfed Baby Accept a Bottle

Occasionally a baby who is being breastfed will refuse to accept a bottle nipple. This can be especially disconcerting if the mother works outside the home, or needs to be away for more than the interval between feedings. Try these suggestions!

Don’t wait too long
Sometime between 4-6 weeks is a good time to introduce a bottle. Sooner may interfere with the establishment of good breastfeeding. Waiting too long may result in a baby who refuses the bottle.

Have someone else give the bottle
Many nursing babies won't take a bottle from their mother. The baby can smell her and knows that there is something better at hand. Have someone else give the bottle and the mother may have to leave the room, or even leave the house.

Sometimes an experienced grandmother or day care provider will have success transitioning the baby to the bottle when the parents have been unsuccessful.

Try different nipples
Features to look for in bottle nipples

Size of the base (wide, medium or narrow)
Length of the shank (short, medium, long)
Flow rate (slow or newborn, medium, rapid)

Wide base Medium base Narrow base
Try medium base, long shank nipple with a slow flow first. They are usually the best for going back and forth from breast to bottle. But give a variety of nipple shapes and materials a try. And be sure to get the baby's jaws over the base of the medium or wide base nipple. This is similar to the positioning on the nipple and areola. The baby should be able to go back and forth from breast to bottle easier when the nipple is used properly.
If the flow seems to slow and the baby becomes frustrated, try enlarging the holes in the nipple with a hot needle or purchasing nipples rated for a faster flow. If the flow is too fast, the baby will have a paniced look on his face, cough and sputter, and milk may leak from his lips. Obtain a slower flow nipple. Ideally the bottle feeding will take the same amount of time as a typical breastfeeding. That may be 10 – 30 minutes depending on the age of the baby.

Allow the baby time to adjust Gently stimulate the baby’s mouth with the nipple and allow the baby time to become familiar with it. Try letting the baby play with it like a toy at other than feeding times. Let the baby get familiar with it on his own terms! Try motion Sit in rocking chair or gently sway back and forth. Try different fluids in the bottle Some babies prefer breastmilk in the bottle. Some prefer that the bottle contain something other than breastmilk. Sometimes ½ and ½ will work. Give lots of lap time Using a bottle should not reduce the amount of time that the baby gets being held, cuddled and loved. Warm it up or cool it down Try warming the fluid in the bottle and the warm the nipple to body temperature. Put it in the refrigerator (teething babies like this), or run warm water over it. Try different holding positions Some babies take a bottle better cuddled in the nursing position. Others do better in a totally different position. Try propping the baby in your lap with his back to your chest. The baby will see the room while drinking the bottle (don't forget eye contact later); or prop the baby on your slanted forelegs, like in an infant seat, and give the bottle while looking at him. Try different times Anticipate feeding times and try when the baby is not too hungry. Or try when the baby is hungry and might be willing to accept anything. Try putting the bottle in the baby's mouth when he is drowsy or sleeping. Offer a cup Skip the bottle and go to a cup. Even preemie babies have successfully used a cup, so any baby can learn this. Use a small cup, shot glass, egg cup, soft plastic bowl, medicine cup, spoon or anything similar. There are especially made feeders if you can’t find a suitable item around the house. Many manufacturers make feeding cups and spoons. Explore what is on the market and follow the manufacturer’s directions. When offering cups to infants, allow the baby to pace the feeding. Do not pour milk into the baby’s mouth! Place the cup on the lip with the fluid just at the rim of the cup. The baby’s tongue will come forward and sip or lap the milk.

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LOVE YOUR WOMAN

2011-10-13T10:52:00.000+08:00

MENARIK UNTUK LELAKI TAHU... NEVER MAKE WOMEN CRY... :)

Wahai Tuhan, mengapa wanita sering menangis?

Jawabnya:

Kerana wanita itu unik.
Aku ciptakannya sebagai makhluk istimewa,
Ku kuatkan bahunya untuk menjaga anak-anaknya,
Ku lembutkan hatinya untuk memberi rasa aman,
Ku kuatkan rahimnya untuk menyimpan benih manusia,
Ku teguhkan peribadinya untuk terus berjuang pada saat yang lain menyerah,
Ku berikannya naluri untuk mencintai anak-anak dalam apa jua keadaan sekalipun,
Ku kuatkan batinnya untuk tetap menyayangi walau dikhianati oleh teman,
Walau disakiti oleh “orang” yang dia sayangi..
Wanita makhluk kuat,
Tetapi jika satu saat dia menangis itu kerana Ku berikannya air mata untuk membasuh luka batin dan memberi kekuatan baru.

“WANITA itu ISTIMEWA”

RIP Steve Jobs

2011-10-06T12:19:00.000+08:00

The world lost a great man today...

You will be sorely missed Steve, but your creations and inventions will live on forever.

...and world, let's also fight and find a cure for pancreatic cancer.

SECONDS OF FAME

2011-09-21T12:22:00.008+08:00

Boleh la twitter handle name glamour satu hari dalam newspaper NST aka New Straits Times today :)

my twitter handle is lynahafiz :)

MY BREASTFEEDING JOURNEY

2011-08-05T14:23:00.000+08:00

Hello all,

Today I would like to share with you my personal journey into exclusively and fully breastfeeding my second born Rayyan.

As most of you know, I'm of a skinny frame and underweight to begin with. With my first born Mirza, I only managed to breastfeed him for just one and a half month, and I gave him formula milk in between. I admit that I was not fully educated on breastfeeding when I had my first child. All I knew is that when baby is born, nurse him. But mirza was a very hungry baby to begin with. He would be feeding at almost every hour and with me not knowing the concept of supply & demand, gave him formula milk in between to cover up my milk producing time. I felt really down because I could not produce more breastmilk for mirza. So in the long run, he preferred formula and eventually my milk dried up within 2 months. But alhamdulillah, Mirza still grew up to be a healthy boy, despite him growing up with formula milk. Dia pun agak jarang deman-deman. And I have to thank Allah SWT for that.

With my second born now, alhamdulillah with the grace of Allah SWT, I managed (and still am) exclusively breastfeeding him until now. To my calculation, it has already been 10 weeks since birthing Rayyan, that I'm exclusively breastfeeding. No formula top-ups at all. Before he was born, I educated myself a lot on breastfeeding and how to manage. I had the support of one very good friend (you know who you are) that educated and told me a lot on breastfeeding. I took solace in her because she fully breastfeed her baby with only one, just ONE side of her breast as she had inverted nipple on her other breast and could not feed her baby with that one. And her baby now is is sangat, sangat sihat compared to babies fed with formula milk at the baby's age! If you see the baby for yourself, you would never beleive that he is a fully breastfed baby. He will be turning 1 year old soon and yes, she is still breastfeeding with with one breast :) and yes, I'm still at awe with his mother's determination.

But lemme tell you, it was not a walk in the park for me, to exclusively breastfeed my baby. Feeding at every hour to stimulate milk production, not having enough sleep (sampai sekarang pun tak cukup tido), baby feeds for a very long time sometimes almost an hour sampai i dont have time for myself nak mandi, nak makan, ect. It was not easy. When I'm alone in the room with the baby, I cry myself out because i'm just too, too tired. All I do is nurse the baby day in and day out. The only way for me to vent out is I cry, alone. But since I'm not working and is a full-time housewife, than that's the only right thing to do, to fully breastfeed my baby. I dont even have expressed milk stocks, like how most breastfeeding mothers have. To me, the milk that I produce is just enough for my baby. And because I'm feeding my baby on-demand, I also dont have a specific schedule on when he wants his milk. I read somewhere that if you start looking at time to schedule feeds, you will get stressed up and yes, it is true for me so I stopped looking at the time and nurse the baby when he wants. I also noticed baby is less cranky when I feed him on-demand. Now, I dont have engorged breasts but my breast does feel 'big'. I sometimes do wonder if i dont have engorged breast, does it mean my milk supply is running low? but Rayyan is growing well, he is putting on weight and on my last visit to his pead, the pead was even surprised that he is growing well. I have known the pead since I had Mirza. She told me alhamdulillah that means I have enough milk for him to be growing just nice. She told me to keep on continuing, sampai rase dah kering and dah habis. It is support like this that keeps me going on in my journey. Most importantly, always tell yourself that you have enough milk because the mother's body is engineered to produce just the right amount for the baby. Itu lah kuasa Allah SWT. And jangan bezakan antara one breastfeeding mom who can produce a lot, to myself. One breastfeeding mom, each to it's own. Tak semestinye with big breasts, you can produce a lot of milk. Sometimes preople's perception macam tu. Kalau big breasts, maksudnye banyak susu. Kalau small breasts, tak cukup susu. Habis kalau zaman dulu2, when milk formula tak exist lagi, orang2 kurus yang macam saya ni, macam mana breastfeed? Again, its back to the demand & supply. I know I'm skinny, i dont even have enough fats on my body myself, let alone exclusively breastfeeding my baby. Banyak orang tak percaya that I'm still exclusively breastfeeding so datang la negative comments such as tak cukup susu la, tu la, ni la. It makes me sad. So what do I do? Kene la usaha. I eat more, I drink more dengan niat yang betul. Paling penting doa pada Allah and have postive thinking. Because if you have negative thinking, it sends a signal to your brain, and the brain will send a signal to your hormones and will slowly stop the milk production.

InsyAallah, I will try and exclusively breastfeed my baby til' the 6 month mark. Tapi kalau other circumstances does'nt allow me to exclusively breastfeed my baby, and if i dont do anything, it will harm the baby, then maybe i will top-up with formula milk or start his solids on early. But i will still try to breastfeed him at the same time. It's all in the choices we make and it does'nt make you a bad mother if you choose to feed your baby with formula milk or start his solids early. Know your own body. I know my body. I'm skinny and I'm the type yang sangat, sangat susah nak naik berat badan because I have very high metabolism rate. So whatever I eat, burns out really fast. So for me to produce milk, I need to eat and drink. I have to eat and drink. So pada bulan Ramadhan yang mulia ni, I chose not to fast because I want to nurse my baby. Islam itu indah. Ia tidak menyusahkan umatnya especially for pregnant/breastfeeding mothers. I will gantikan my puasa next year insyaAllah and bayar fidyah sekali. My niat is to breastfeed my baby. Paling penting niat. Bukan sengaja nak ponteng. Whatever it is, hanya Allah sahaja tahu my niat and ape2 pun, it will be between me and Allah SWT. My baby is still small, only two and a half months and his only source of food is me.

I did'nt manage to breastfeed Mirza when he was a baby, but he still grew up well. I will try and fully breastfeed Rayyan insyaAllah dengan izin Allah, for 6 months. Apa2 pun, i can only plan but Allah tentukan semua. I hope rezeki Rayyan nak susu badan ni akan ada, dengan izin Nya insyaAllah.

So mothers with skinny frame just like me, tell yourself that YOU CAN.

NOW IT'S FOUR

2011-08-02T15:42:00.000+08:00

* latest of us family :)

HI EVERYONE!

Gosh how i miss blogging...really do.

I wish i'd have the time and energy to do it like i did many, many yonks ago...maybe.

InsyaAllah, in due time :)

Meanwhile you can catch me on FACEBOOK & TWITTER

NEW ADVENTURE BEGINS

2011-06-02T16:11:00.000+08:00

*mummy & rayyan (post-natal)

this is love :)

...and yes, a new adventure begins.

thank you everyone!!!

love from us;
Hafiz, Lyna, Mirza, Rayyan

MY BABY IS ADMITTED

2011-05-28T18:21:00.000+08:00

Rayyan is admitted due to high level of jaundice :(

I'm lodging in with him at the hospital because im fully breast-feeding, so need to be near him all the time. i'll be alone most of the time in the hospital as hafiz has to care for mirza at home, which is ok for me really. i'm all good here eventhough baru aje beberape hari berpantang. i'm watching over what i eat and i still have my socks and sweater on. urut and bertunku must post-pone until baby is discharged and ok.

Doa2 kan kami.

I FELL IN LOVE FOR THE 3rd TIME

2011-05-27T11:30:00.001+08:00

Ikhwan Rayyan Hafiz bin Husni Hafiz
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Thank you everyone for all your doa's and wishes. I am truly blessed...

Until" the next update.

*find me on Facebook & Twitter » lynahafiz

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TICKTOCK

2011-05-19T19:21:00.000+08:00

Hello labour room.

I'll be seeing you very, very soon.

"Ya Allah ampun kan lah dosa-dosa ku, permudahkan lah urusan bersalin ku nanti, selamat kan lah kandungan ku dan juga diri ku, kurang kan lah kesakitan yang akan ku alami dan murah kan lah rezeki kami sekeluarga. Amin."

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KAIN KURUNG/SAREE SELLING ONLINE NOW

2011-05-12T14:09:00.000+08:00

*feel free to share this flyer on your respective facebook/twitter/blog/website

Click here for the materials!

*for enquiries/orders, please refer to the code number given on each piece of materials.

As i'm due for delivery of my 2nd baby anytime now, i'll be selling the materials online instead. Should you wish to have a feel of the materials, you are also welcomed to my home and have a look at it. As of now, i'm confined to bedrest and will be at home most of the time. Please direct all your queries or orders to lynahafiz@gmail.com as i wont be online most of the time but i can receive all emails directly on my mobile phone. I will handle all queries from there on. Thank You and may Allah repay your kindness. Support me in this small business of mine. Thank You again.

Hello everyone,

These materials are all stock-in-hand!

I'm selling kain pasang (4 metres/6 metres) untuk dibuat baju kurung/kebaya at a cheap price. I will be selling online and also directly. please email me at lynahafiz@gmail.com for more info's or if you are interested in doing business with me. Would really appreciate it if all orders and enquiries are all directed to my email for easier replies.

...and of course i'll be giving discounts if you buy more than one piece of material :)

Note : Colour on material may slightly be different from picture.

Please spread the words about this page (selling kain pasang, apart from designing services) to your families and friends. Feel free to use the flyer above to share. Grab yours today, especially for Hari Raya that is nearly coming!

thank you in advance for all your support! only Allah can repay your kindness. amin.

STALLED DELIVERY

2011-05-10T12:22:00.000+08:00

So, according to my doc and nurses, I can actually deliver my baby today if I wanted to since I was having regular contractions which, not to boast or anything but I could'nt feel or even realize I even had one. I mean I can feel the pain, it was tolerable just that I thought it was some normal pain I had been having these past few weeks.

Anyways I was assigned into the labour room, strapped to the machine and was monitored for nearly an hour. Hearing the baby's heartbeat was the best feeling! I remembered having that same adrenalin rush when I heard mirza's heartbeat 7 years back. What came out from the monitor was a surprise. Baby had a higher heartbeat rate than normal. And everytime contraction came, his heartbeat came up to a whopping 190! But came down slowly after contraction softens to 150-160+. That got the nurses panicking. So they then took my bp and everything was normal, alhamdulillah. Nurses told me don't stress myself too much else baby will feel it and he gets distressed. The high and low peaks on the 'mountain' drawing on the long white strip of paper shows I'm actually having regular contractions 2 minutes apart. I'm like okaaaayyyy that's a surprise. Then my gynae came in, looked at me and said, "you can go into labour if you want to today. Let me just do a VE check on you to see how far along you are." She checked and said its still soft and estimated its just 1cm dilated. That is also because I've had prior delivery before so that opening is already there. "Nak beranak harini tak?" asked my gynae and I said nooooo because I know if I go into labour today, I would have to take that steroid jab to mature baby's lungs which is a pain-in-the-ass-literally. Plus baby is just 35wks old so it was not advisable to deliver today hence I have to stall my contractions for another week by swallowing some medication pills. Am advised to be on bedrest for as long as posibble and to just rest and not do any physical activity, not to stress myself, to stall delivery. Looking at my condition right now, to even walk is a dreadful feat :p

So what am I gonna do this 1 week plus of bedrest? I'm gonna eat sleep, eat sleep, eat sleep and try and get myself mentally and physically prepared for birth. House chores? Well I will definately need help on that one. I just hate seeing everything looking messy and unorganized. Makes my head unorganized too just by looking. I will try to make the best out of this resting period. If I feel the need to just get out and walk, I'll just go to the nearest mall which is just 3 minutes away from home. Cool air conditioning there too!!! Since being prepped at home is pretty heaty, considering this dry draught we have been having these past few days.

Please pray for me to have a safe and smooth delivery. I want to have a natural birth, without drugs involved. Eventhough I complain too much lately of the ever tiring last trimester but deep down in my heart I just can't wait to meet up with my second prince! So baby, work with mummy ok.

Til' the next update.

PS: should anything happen this week, hospital is really near my home, less than 2 minutes drive :)

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EARLIER THAN EXPECTED

2011-05-03T13:39:00.000+08:00

So I just got back from my forth-nightly ante-natal check-up. Doc had one good look at my belly, had ultra-sound on the baby and she said, "ok lyna, your baby is engaged already." Imagine my surprise when this past 3 weeks, baby in belly has had a hard time turning as he was horizontal most of the time. I guess he must have finally managed to turn last night when I was asleep. So yes today, now I feel his 'kicks' under my ribcage. Doc also said the signs are there already. She told me I'm having contractions already but I told her I have pains but it comes and goes and it's tolerable a pain. So that means I've been having contractions since last few days! Now I'm confused which is braxton hicks which is real contractions :p adehhh...

So according to docs predictions and since this is already my 2nd pregnancy, 10th May is probably expected. So on the 10th, I will have to be checked into the labour room and be monitored. If nothing happens, than I'm allowed to go home. I told my doc of my intentions of having a normal birth without any drugs involved and she said not to worry. She's more worried if I have to go for c-sect instead which she's trying to avoid altogether. And I also mentioned to her not to induce the baby out. She said don't worry about anything we'll try go natural. Except for the epidural part, and looking from my previous pregnancy, she can't promise on that because she knows my tolerance to pain is a tad high :p I told her I'll try my best to tolerate! LOL

Baby is now 2.1kg so baby weight is just fine if I were to deliver next week, around less than 2.5kg. Again, she knows I can't expect a big baby since my belly is so small and compact. So doc said I will have a small baby and once the baby is delivered, it'll be put immediately on my chest and wrapped up to make him warm for a long period of time.

How am I feeling now? Honestly I am scared because I'm expected wayyy earlier than I myself predicted! I expected baby to come out after say...20th May and above. I just want baby to cook well and just nice and wanting to pass that 37weeks mark. But if baby decides to come out early, then I'm ok. Ni semua kuasa Allah and who am I to delay it? But baby please give mummy some little extra time as I have some minor stuffs to prepare for us! Sikitttt je lagi nak siapkan, ok!

So family and friends, please pray for me. I really want to have a normal and save delivery. I just need the strength to go through the ordeal because I am scared. Deep down inside my heart, I really can't wait to have my baby in my arms!

Officially today, my resting mode starts! Yay jadik queen ;)

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IT'S THE MONTH

2011-05-01T12:43:00.001+08:00

Today the 1st of May til' end of the month insyaallah, marks the day that I will officially have a good rest and prepare myself mentally for the upcoming birth of my second baby. Will be in mantra mode for the next 4 weeks.

Yes I am scared, am not lying, eventhough its my second childbirth. With mirza I delivered normally so insyaallah with Allah's grace I will deliver normally too.

How's baby in belly now? He's doing fine juz that I think he has problems trying to turn and get engaged in the birth canal. I can still feel him squirming but its mostly on my right side of belly, my left side feels hard, probably its his head. I have been feeling like this since 3 weeks ago. On my last checkup last 2 weeks, my doc says baby is growing fine and weight is fine too, looking at how compact and small my growing uterus is, and that he still has some teeny weeny space to move. My next checkup is this coming tuesday so I will voice out my concern. I pray that baby and everything will be fine. I just want to have a safe, normal and painless delivery.

How's my preparation for baby's arrival? So far, so good. Just some small last minute stuffs that I need to get for myself and baby like baby wipes, cotton balls, baby detergent/liquid bottle wash, bottles, creams, ect and as for myself maternity bra/pads, bra pads, ect. All of those I will get on the upcoming 2nd baby expo fair in MidValley this 6,7,8th May. I just hope I'm strong enough to go through the mall! Because as of now, just a 15min walk has me feeling breathless and tired. I think I have almost 85% covered. The other 15% I will prepare slowly in the upcoming weeks.

Oh, THE hospital bag. Have not done that yet. But hospital is just less thhan 400 metres away and takes less than 3 minutes drive from home! So for the sake of exercising, I may just walk to the hospital when in light labour :p haha! I can literally see the hospital from the balcony of my room!

How's hafiz and mirza with the upcoming arrival of baby? They're both fine. Mirza is slowly accepting the fact that he will no more be the only baby so he has been very helpful and independent the last few months. Alhamdulillah for that. As for hafiz, he has been working 7 days a week trying to get extra rezeki for the family and alhamdulillah, rezeki tu ada walaupun sikit. So peeps *iklan tak berbayar* kalau nak beli kereta baru especially Perodua and Proton cars, please contact us ok. Kereta lain pun jual jugak. Just give us a ring or shoot us an email. So alhamdulillah, we're all coping well with the rezeki Allah has given us even if it is small.

Me? Well just preparing for what ever may come :)

So hello May and baby, please cook a lil' bit longer in mummy's belly ok so the both of us won't get any drugs injected into us! Let's do everything drug free :)

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REFLECTING

2011-04-29T23:42:00.001+08:00

"Give yourself time alone, so that you can think about your life, your deeds, make zikir." #EasyGoodDeeds

...right here right now, is exactly what i need...
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MATERIALS FOR SALE

2011-04-29T15:08:00.000+08:00

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ACCORDING TO THE DOC...

2011-04-26T10:12:00.000+08:00

...i will deliver in 3 weeks time, so that makes baby in gestation 35 weeks ++ or 36 weeks. Can't really predict the actual date from conception til' now though so we're gambling with numbers here. But I hope I can pass that 37 weeks mark though because I don't want anything jabbed into my ass, literally!!!

3 WEEKS!

Am I ready? Honestly, I don't know...though I smile just looking at the sight of newborn babies. But I do cringe at the thought of having 2 years of sleepless nights when baby in here comes. But i love having the joy of raising my own children, with my own bare hands, without any domestic help. That's a bonus. Because I know, that's how I raised them to be. Looking at mirza now, at how difficult he was to care for when he was small, all the hair raising moments, the cries I battled with, the tantrums that sometimes makes me give-up all together, ect. But mirza now is most easy to care for. Not because he's a 7 y/o kid but really, I can see the difference in caring for him before and now. Alhamdulillah as they say, susah2 dulu senang2 kemudian. And mirza is easy now.

I hope this baby will do the same for me, like what his big brother has done. It really does take all the pain away in being able to see first hand what I have sewn. All those years of heart-breaks, difficulty, feeling like a bad mother, ect. all those, gone by just seeing them grow-up.

...so 3 more weeks...

Ya Allah, give me all the strength i will need soon...
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IT WON'T CHANGE ANYTHING

2011-04-23T12:01:00.002+08:00

I'm sorry. I know you meant well by telling me good stories about this person. But the fact still remains that this person has scared my family, for life. I have forgiven this person a long time ago eventhough he/she has given my family a great deal of pain, and still suffering from it til' now. Only time and doa's will tell if we'll ever be the same again with this person as before. Only time will heal the pain. I pray to Allah that we'll be ok again like before with he/she in the near future insyaallah. But for now, no. Thank you for telling me good stories about he/she but, it won't change anything...but you, i still love you, you did'nt change anything, just he/she did.

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NO F1 FOR ME

2011-04-10T14:08:00.001+08:00

Yes, no F1 for me this year.

When I was 3 month preggo with mirza, I went to Sepang. I did'nt go the very next year bcoz mirza was still small. Then I continued going every year after that. I've never missed any MalaysianGP since its inaugral race in 1999. So today, marks the 2nd time I'm not going.

But its ok. This small kiddo in my belly needs all the rest. And mommy too. Next time, you can join abah, abang and mommy ok baby :)

Now what the hell am I going to do all alone?!?

Oh yes, sleep. And laundry. Tido dulu lah.

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50 REASONS TO BE GLAD YOU'RE PREGNANT

2011-04-08T12:00:00.001+08:00

positive thinking, positive thinking... *ohmmm ohmmm ohmmm*

We all have moments when we think, 'Never again!' during pregnancy: perhaps morning sickness is making you miserable or you're 10 days overdue with not even a hint of a contraction. To remind you that being pregnant can be fun, we've rounded up some of the nice things about being an expecting mum.

Relishing the early weeks when only you and your husband knew your special secret.
Knowing you've got nine whole months to plan, dream and fantasise.
Choosing maternity clothes - they've never been more practical or more sexy.
Now you've got the perfect excuse to pamper yourself - spending hours in a scented bath, enjoying a massage or rubbing soothing lotions into your growing bump.
Maternity leave when you will have two whole months (or three months if you work for the government) to enjoy your baby.
You can join a antenatal class and find a whole new bunch of friends. Don't forget our online community: another great way to meet people due at the same time as you.
For once in your life you need to get heavier - pregnancy is Nature's way of making you feel good about putting on weight.
If this is your first baby, enjoy the next nine months sleeping late at weekends: you won't get many chances later on.
At last you've got the bosom you've always wanted, which means you also have...
...a great excuse to buy lots of pretty new bras.
Finally, you can ask people to get off their seats for you in the LRT, train or bus.
At last you'll have something more than pot plants and cats to care for and nurture!
Suddenly you'll find you're getting lots of extra attention from parents, aunts and uncles, not to mention your husband.
You may find you develop a closer relationship with sisters, cousins or friends who are parents themselves. Congratulations, you've just won free admission to the parents' club!
Telling your mum, dad, sister, brother, aunt and seventh auntie twice removed, the good news and watching their faces light up.
New talents! Whether it's folding reusable nappies or assembling a flat-pack cot, you'll suddenly find yourself trying out all sorts of new skills.
Suddenly you'll feel a new appreciation for your own mother and all she went through having you.
Decorating the nursery: one of the most exciting things you'll ever do.
Feeling those first fluttering kicks and thinking, "Is that what I think it is? Or is it just wind?"
Feeling just fine about sending your husband out for roti canai followed by double-choc chip ice cream and cendol.
Your parents digging out your old cot or pram, which they've kept safely all this time "just in case".
Going for healthy walks with your husband and getting fresh air in your lungs because it's good for you and good for your baby.
Enjoying the extra-vivid dreams you get in late pregnancy - and laughing about them with your friends.
Feeling a little pair of heels prodding under your diaphragm and knowing you'll soon be meeting the little person they belong to!
Choosing baby clothes and planning what you're going to buy.
Writing a pregnancy diary for your baby to read in the future.
Getting someone to take photos of you smiling over your enormous bump so that, one day, you can look back and be amazed you were ever that size.
Finding out how many people there are out there ready to care for you: grandma, grandpa, mum and dad, great grandaunt Bibi who used to scold you for playing masak-masak with her good china, doctors, nurses, breastfeeding counsellors...
Lying in bed with your husband's arms around you and your bump, knowing that love has created a new life.
Enjoying indulgences, such as evenings out, weekends away and anything else you might not be able to do so easily once the baby arrives.
Knowing that from now on, whatever happens, you'll never be bored again.
Making new friends whenever you go shopping - everyone has a pregnancy story to share.
You can spend whole evenings debating baby names, but don't forget to try our BabyCenter baby namer and top Malaysian names lists if you get stuck!
Imagining what he or she will look like. Your sweet little ears, of course, and his sexy eyes!
Dreaming about, "My daughter the prime minister/pop star/brain surgeon."
Looking at your growing bump in the mirror and realising there's a person in there!
Making out a squirmy outline on the ultrasound monitor. Asking for the pic to take home and pinning it up next to your work station, or just keeping it in your bag to sneak looks at.
The expression on your husband's face as he sees the test strip turn blue, looks at your growing bump or feels the baby kicking.
Buying that first little cuddly toy for your baby, not somebody else's.
Making that phone call to your husband to tell him that - we're off! - labour has started.
Trying out all those exercises you learned at antenatal class and finding out that they actually work!
Being held and supported throughout a contraction by your husband or labour companion and knowing that you can trust them totally.
Finding out, as the contractions get tough, that your repertoire of swear words (in several languages!) is far more extensive than you ever realised!
Making an informed choice about pain relief and finding that it's right for you at that stage in labour.
That huge rush of pleasure and relief when, suddenly, all the pain and effort stops.
Looking into your newborn's eyes and falling utterly in love.
Hearing your husband tell his colleagues, the cleaning lady, delivery man and anyone else he can find because his joy and pride are overwhelming.
Celebrating! Whatever the time of day or night.
Making all those phone calls to announce the arrival. Telling everyone the news and hearing the excitement in their voices.
Waking up to see your baby sleeping next to you and thinking, 'Wow! This is real. I'm a mum!'

*article take from babycenter malaysia

....at the rate i'm going right now, i wish for the baby to come out soon!!! tak larat daaahhh... *sobs*

WHAT TO PACK IN HOSPITAL BAG

2011-04-07T12:00:00.010+08:00

i just neeeed all these reminders since short term memory loss has been my best ever friend for the past 8 months now :p

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You're in the final stretch, with only a few weeks to go before your due date. Now's the time to pack a bag for all the essentials you'll need during labour and after your baby is born.

Print out this checklist to help remember everything you need. It's a good idea to have your bags packed by the time you are about 36 weeks pregnant, so that you're not rushing around in early labour trying to get everything done then!

Hospitals vary in their policies about what you are allowed to bring with you when you have your baby. You may want to take a few items from home, such as your own pillows or cushions, to make the environment more personal and less clinical. Check what the hospital provides and what you can bring yourself, but be aware that hospitals can be short on space -- and you may need to store everything in a small cabinet by your bed.

What to pack for labour
• Your birth plan.
• Dressing gown -- useful if you end up pacing hospital corridors in early labour.
• Slippers.
• Socks -- believe it or not, your feet can get cold during labour.
• An old nightdress or a T shirt to wear in labour, if you don't want to put on the hospital gown. It might get a bit messy, so don't buy anything specially to wear in hospital.
• Massage oil or lotion if you would like to be massaged during your labour.
• Lip balm.
• Snacks and drinks for you while you are in labour, or some glucose tablets to keep you going.
• Watch with a second hand, to time contractions.
• Digital camera or camcorder. If you want to bring a camcorder, check with the hospital beforehand -- not all of them allow them in delivery rooms.
• Relaxation materials: books, magazines, games etc.
• Pictures of someone or something you love (the inspiration you may need to see you through to the end).
• TENS pain relief machine if you are planning to use one.
• Toiletries.
• Water spray, or a hand-held fan to keep you cool.
• Music to listen to.

For your birth partner
• A change of clothes.
• Snacks and drinks -- you don't want a dehydrated, hungry birth partner looking after you!

For after the birth
• Going-home outfit.It will take a while for your tummy to go down so you'll be still wearing maternity clothes when you come home -- sorry!
• Nursing bras -- two or three.
• Breast pads for when your milk comes in.
• Maternity pads -- a couple of packs.
• Toiletries.
• Towels, hairbrush, toothbrush and toothpaste.
• Old knickers/cheap knickers/disposable knickers -- don't bring your best ones as they will get messy. If you end up having a caesarean, the hospital may provide one of those brilliant stretchy knickers that are comfortable over your scar.
• Ear plugs, in case you end up on a noisy ward!
• Your mobile phone - and charger!

For your baby
• An infant car seat.
• One outfit for the trip home (all-in-one stretchy outfits are easiest). The hospital provides baby gowns for your baby to wear during his stay.
• Baby blanket (a warm one if weather is cold).
• Nappies.
• One pair of socks or booties.
• Hat.
• Muslin squares.

Once you've got your hospital bag organised, remind yourself of the first signs of labour so you know when it's the real thing!

FETAL DEVELOPMENT - 30 WEEKS PREGNANT

2011-04-06T13:09:00.001+08:00

*hey sweetheart :)

Your baby's lungs and digestive tract are almost fully developed. While your baby may soon slow up growing in length (he measures about 15.7 inches / 40 centimetres from crown to toe by now), he will continue to gain weight until he's born.
This week your baby continues to open and shut his eyes. He can probably see what's going on in utero, distinguish light from dark and even track a light source. If you shine a light on your stomach, your baby may move his head to follow the light or even reach out to touch the moving glow. Some researchers think baring your stomach to light stimulates visual development. But don't expect 20/20 vision when your baby is born - newborns can see a distance of only about 8 to 12 inches / 20 to 30 centimetres. (Children with normal vision don't reach 20/20 vision until about age 7 to 9.) To complete the picture, your baby now has eyebrows and eyelashes.

A pint and a half / around a litre of amniotic fluid now surrounds your baby but that volume decreases as he gets bigger and has less room in your uterus. As you and the baby continue to grow, don't be alarmed if you feel breathless, as if you can't get enough air; it's just your uterus pressing against your diaphragm. There is a light at the end of the tunnel though. At about 34 weeks (or just before birth, if this is your second or third pregnancy), your baby's head will move down into your pelvis as the baby gets into the right position for birth. That will make breathing and eating a lot easier.

wowzerrrr...
6-8 weeks more to go girl!!!

article take from babycenter malaysia

HEART & SOUL

2011-04-05T15:35:00.001+08:00

i am happy, when he is happy.

makes my complicated life a whole lot easier to go through.

love you baby boy! eventhough you're gonna be a big brother soon, my love for you will still be the same.

I'm gonna cherish my last few weeks of pregnancy hugging and kissing this cheeky boy of mine because after this, he's gonna have a huge responsibility being a big brother and he won't be my only baby anymore...he's all...grown up!

Love you Ikhwan Mirza Hafiz *from mummy*

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HELLO BABY H!!

2011-04-02T10:08:00.001+08:00

Before any of you jump to any conclusions,

no, this is NOT my baby!!!

i have another 60 days or more left, or maybe lesser than that.

This, is Mirza's new nephew Hasyf whose gonna be 2 months old soon. It is my sister-in-laws (Hafiz's sister) new baby. We were at baby Hasyf's aqiqah ceremony last night. The green icu cube ice-cream was da' bomb! It was an indian dessert cuisine. Yumsss!!!

Soon I'll be holding a newborn again... *tick tock*

Have a great weekend.

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I WANT THIS PULUT DURIAN!!!

2011-04-01T12:00:00.002+08:00


*picture taken from http://sawanila.com/v10/2009/06/15/bubur-pulut-durian/

"kepada tuan punya gambar atas ni, this is the only perfect pulut durian picture i could find on the internet! nampak sangat yummy!!! maafkan lah ibu mengandung ini. mengidam dah berbulan2 dah :( "

Yes!!! this is the pulut durian that i want, with the white sticky rice and the kuah pekat gila! nak kene tunjuk gambar jugak!!! mana aku nak cekau ni weihhh...karang ade jugak air liur yang meleleh lepas beranak ni nanti...!!!

looks yummy, kan???

I WAAAAANNNNNTTTTT!!!!

I AM OFFICIALLY 8 MONTHS PREGGERS

2011-03-31T16:30:00.000+08:00

phewww...

talk about timing huh...

yes i'm 8 months into my pregnancy and no, i'm not doing homebirth :p

i will still have my baby at the hospital, regardless of how the childbirth will be.

however...

i will be trying for a natural birth meaning, i'm gonna try and deliver without the use of any drugs, just all natural hormones. after all, a womans body is already designed to have childbirth and i'm pretty sure the big man up there has prepped up everything needed for a womans body to have childbirth, even before he created us.

have faith in Allah, i say to myself.

and i am also trying to fully breastfeed my baby this time around. i could'nt with mirza, because i was not fully educated on breastfeeding at that time. now i am, it is my mission to try. skinny as i am, i think my body will produce an amount of milk supply, satisfying for my baby.

so please pray that i can do all this and most importantly, please pray that i will have a very, very smooth and uncomplicated childbirth.

*baby-in-belly waves hi*

ps : i'm almost away from my blog most of the time but please follow me at FACEBOOK and TWITTER with the handle name lynahafiz I'm there everyday :)

take care peeps.

TO PONDER...

2011-03-18T14:21:00.001+08:00

Rasulullah SAW bersabda :

"Jibril telah mengajarku beberapa kalimah. Setiap kali selesai sembahyang, hendaklah membaca 'Subhanallah' sepuluh kali, Alhamdulillah' sepuluh kali dan 'Allahu Akbar' sepuluh kali. Kemudian ketika hendak tidur baca 'Subhanallah', 'Alhamdulillah' dan 'Allahu Akbar' ini sebanyak tiga puluh tiga kali."

Ternyata amalan itu telah memberi kesan kepada Siti Fatimah RA. Semua kerja rumah dapat dilaksanakan dengan mudah dan sempurna meskipun tanpa pembantu rumah.

Itulah hadiah istimewa dari Allah SWT buat hamba-hamba yang hatinya sentiasa mengingati-Nya.

HAPPY 5th BIRTHDAY NABIL!

2011-03-05T22:45:00.000+08:00

Celebrated Nabil's (my nephew) birthday @ Tropicana Golf & Country Club and had some bowling games.
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THE SOON-TO-BE BIG BROTHER

2011-02-19T13:33:00.001+08:00

I've never expected him to be a big brother this soon, but he will be one this coming May or June. He has a big responsibility when his lil' bro comes, and that is to be a big brother and guide and protect his siblings. So what I've been doing as of late now is to spend as much time with him, just the two of us before I have to split my time between him and his soon-to-be born baby brother. All I know is when the time comes when I have to deliver, I want to hug him tight for one last time, as being my only child, my light, my love, my strength, for the past 7 years, and let him know that I'll still always be there for him, even when he has become a big brother...

I love you Ikhwan Mirza Hafiz, and I'll always be there for you no matter what...

Love you baby boy <3

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MONTHLY PRE-NATAL CHECK UP 4

2011-02-17T15:54:00.000+08:00

*lil' one squirming

with all the pain i had to endure for the past 2 days and today, just looking at the lil' one on the screen gave me the hugest smile and a rush of adrenalin that i needed to get well...

:)

anyways doctor says i'm ok and that the baby is growing well. but she is giving me when i'm on my 35th, 36th or 37th weeks to deliver the baby, since she said my uterus is small and might not probably cope well with a bigger baby. mirza was a 36 weeks++ baby himself. but i beleive in Allah's plans. if He says baby will come out soon, it will, because that means the baby is ready to see the world. if He says baby will come out later, than later it will. there is a reason behind all of it. because Allah takkan menyusahkan hambaNya. kalau zaman dulu2, without all these technology, medications and what nots, baby still came out safe and sound regardless. heck it has been around for millions of years!!! a womans body has been designed to cope with childbirth and i beleive that when a baby is ready to come out, it will, no medications, no drugs needed. pray for me that i will go through all this naturally. i just do not want any drugs interventions.

well i'm going into my 24th week now which makes me 6 months pregnant. how am i coping? well this second pregnancy has been a tough one but i'm going through it with all my might. it is so, sooo much different than when i carried mirza which was easier compared to this one. but who knows maybe my delivery will be easier and not painful when the time comes...ok who am i kidding...not painful?? LOL less painful, i mean. again, Allah takkan menyusahkan hambaNya. there is always a reason behind everything that He has planned for us :) Just that all i'm mostly doing now is be cooped up at home and resting...a lot. maybe people might say that i'm still young and that i'm not suppose to get tired or lethargic easily but in actual fact, i am. my body is just not strong enough anymore compared to when i was in my 20's. i'm in my early 30's now. maybe my skinny frame is to blame but i follow my body instincts wisely. i know when it signals. heck i can't even walk for more than 30 minutes let alone stand for long. i get the worst pain and cramps from the waist down when i exceed my body limits. and now, i can't even drive without properly adjusting the cars seat. itu pun kene lunjurkan kaki agak panjang sikit because this baby in here refuses for me to sit at a certain angle because maybe he is uncomfortable inside and so, the kicking frenzy begins in the belly. this baby here is more hyper and active compared to mirza when i was carrying him. a lottaaaaaa difference mind you. but it's all good. as long as baby is active and kicking, then i'll be fine although the kicking frenzy sometimes turns me upside down and in a lotta pain.

but insyaallah, with His grace, i'll get through this pregnancy smoothly. anak adalah anugerah Allah yang paling besar and insyaallah i will care for my kids til' my last breath because itu lah satu-satunya harta that i have on this earth, my children.

so peeps, pray for me. i really, really need all the doa's and positive vibes i can get. and i hope that one day, i will be an inspiration to anyone who is going through childbirth that, even a skinny woman can go with vaginal delivery because heck, i am skinny...LOL!

* "hello world! i'll be seeing you all soon. i'm just too comfy here in mummy's belly :)"

Later loves <3

NEW TOY

2011-02-15T19:51:00.001+08:00

My PinkBerry which I blinged myself :)

Gonna buy more of the bling stickers and create my own berry case. It's kinda fun!
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GOOD MORNING SUNSHINE

2011-02-13T09:12:00.001+08:00

Hello peeps.

Sorry for the lack of updates. Been too busy concentrating on my pregnancy that my blog has been neglected :(

I've also been away from my pc as of late hence the emptyness here. Busy concentrating on what's to come soon in life!

But now I have a 'new toy' which constantly keeps me updated at my fingertips so maybe I'll get back to my online diary as often now! LOL

So in the meantime, take care and keep checking out this space :)

LOVE.
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MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR!

2010-12-25T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Wishing all my readers Happy Holidays and have a great weekend with your loved ones!"

Drive safe and Be safe.

ChurpChurp | Social Share » Be part of the Invent Your Own iPad Application Contest and Win! (Preview)

2010-12-24T12:31:00.000+08:00

ChurpChurp | Social Share » Be part of the Invent Your Own iPad Application Contest and Win! (Preview)

Love applications, be it on a Smartphone or Tablet for gaming, informative or educational purposes? Exclusive for Nuffnang Bloggers, here's your chance to do so AND be rewarded for it!

Use your creative juices to "invent" your own iPad application and you may be worth of winning a free 3g 64GB iPad each! There are 2 prizes up for grabs. Here's how the 2 winners are chosen:

-The best idea (both creatively and technologically feasible)
- The most creative idea (Your idea may be well ahead of the technology that is available today but WOW us and you can still win a free iPad from Maxis.)

FIRST PRIZE : 1 x 3G 64GB Maxis iPad + WIFI Maxis Modem
SECOND PRIZE: 1 x 3G 32GB Maxis iPad + WIFI Maxis Modem

Hurry up! Contest ends on Friday, December 31, 2010!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

2010-12-23T00:00:00.004+08:00

PLEASE UNDERSTAND, IM NOT AS STRONG AS I USED TO BE...

2010-12-22T17:50:00.000+08:00

for the 1st time since i got preggers, i'm down with THE fever, flu and sore throat today. i think my system managed fairly well when the whooole household was infected by the fever last month, and i was in pink of health. my body has fairly done a good job at 'guarding' my baby so that it wont get infected too. but alas, i've my shield down today. my nose is running like pipe water, i'm sneezing like there's no tomorrow (mind you it hurts to sneeze now that i'm carrying a baby, it sorta put pressure on the belly), my eyes are hot and watery and my throat hurts like hell. i'm not having any hot fever but just mild ones. and i hope it stays that way until i'm completely well!

i don't know what my body is telling me but i do know that the body is reacting to foreign things introduced into the body, hence the fever attack. but having a fever while you're pregnant is like, having a bad fever for weeks. your body reacts differently to it as if it'll take ages to recover. the hormones in my body is probably in a 'busy rush hour mode' where all sorts of hormones are coming in, out, left, right, up and down all over trying to accomodate the double needs my body has to do now. how i wish my feel good endorphines takes over right now... *sighs*

and speaking of changes...

i am into my second pregnancy, at the age of 32+, and i find much difference compred to my first one, which was in my middle twenties. i find that right now, i don't feel as energetic. i'm constantly resting and even an half an hour walk through the mall tires me out easily. my back bone hurts more and is more sensitive, my waist hurts and the V bone down south hurts like anything. i know that all my bones are softening, to expand for the baby's size but my body right now is just not enduring the pain as well as it did before. and my nausea is worst this time around. i have the urge to eat but once the food goes down to my throat, i feel 'full'. i dont vomit, at all. just the bad, bad nausea is sickening and it happens, all day. hence because of it, i dont have that much energy.

every pregnancy is different for every woman be it the first, second, third and so forth. none is the same. but what im trying to tell is, i need people to understand that, im not as strong as i used to be compared to my first pregnancy. im not making up any stories, nor do i ask for sympathy from anybody but please do understand that im not as strong as before. i know im 32 and be supposedly strong but please dont compare me with other 32 year olds and above who is pregnant, is active, is well and is strong. im not them. i try to be strong. im trying my best to care for my well being. but my body physically now can't endure the changes well enough. what runs through my mind for this long period is for my baby that im carrying to be healthy. as long as the baby in me is healthy, then im ok. so please dont judge me when i say i am weak, because I AM. please dont judge me when i say my back hurts, because IT DOES. please dont judge me when i walk, i waddle (early) because the weight i carry in front of me cant accomodate my TWIGGY LEGS. please dont judge me and say i need to eat more to put on more weight for me and the baby, because god i've been trying to put on weight for years and my METABOLIC RATE IS NOT SYNCHING well with my body. i am trying my best to put on weight and it's not that im not doing anything about it.

so please understand that, again, im not as strong as i used to be, for this pregnancy. don't compare me with others who is pregnant and is active and well. people have different opinions but please check the root of the cause before you put any opinions in it. it might hurt that person if you dont know the real cause. be in my shoes right now and you'll know how i feel.

above all, i need the support, love and care from everyone for me to get through this pregnancy smoothly. i admit that in this early stages of pregnancy, im really not enjoying it at all, i dont wanna be a hypocrite. i just hope that after the early stages are over, i get to enjoy the other remaining balance of my pregnancy, as how it's suppose to be. and i know once i have my baby in my arms for another 5-6 more months, all the pain i had to endure will go away and that everything will be back to how it used to be. for now, just help and support me throughout the rest of my pregnancy because god knows i need all the posivite vibes to get me through this second journey...

I MISS BLOGGING

2010-12-18T16:58:00.003+08:00

yes, i really do.

back then, years back, i used to actively blog when the blogosphere was at its peak. but reading my previous archives from way back in 2003, made me miss writing. maybe it's also the fact that i'm pregnant with my 2nd one, and i wanna record all it's glory, makes the urge to blog stronger.

but since facebook and twitter came along, somehow or rather it has like 'killed' the art of blogging. maybe, just my 2 cents.

but i'm gonna try to be actively blogging again. i miss it.

BACK IN 2004....

2010-12-17T20:14:00.002+08:00

something i bumped into while i was actively blogging years back :

"i watched a documentary on Discovery Channel today on 10 mothers giving birth on the same day, in 10 different countries. it shows from labour right til' the baby comes out. so yeah, i got to see women in labour with normal AND casearean delivery. somehow or rather, it did kinda soothe me for a while, the fright of delivering tu. i got to see that immediately after the baby comes out, the pain and hardwork paid off. boleh nampak dari muke the mothers. macam nampak rase 'lega'. i even cried when the mothers cried after the baby was immediately given to them after a few minutes of delivery! now that shed tears. will i be like that? i think so. we'll havta wait and see. i think i'll cry firstly because i've finally got thru 9 months of hardwork and the sight of the precious one that i've been carrying for the whole 9 months (thru thick n thin!) is brought into this world. and secondly, i think i'll cry because maybe some part of me will be sad because i've been carrying the baby for 9 whole months, making sure that what i do or eat will not affect the baby in any way, and now that the baby's finally into this world, he'll be facing a lot more otha 'challenges'. when the baby's in me, i know he's protected. who know's maybe i'll 'miss' the feeling of having a baby inside of me after i deliver this little one! (apart from all d complaining n restlessness n tiredness!)."

>>> Wednesday, August 18, 2004

somehow or rather, when i read back my adventures with mirza, it calms me down a lot. hope that i'll have a great adventure with my 2nd baby as well...amin.

LABOUR STAGES

2010-12-17T10:00:00.006+08:00

again, since i'm going all au-naturel, gotta learn the labour stages :

Information about Labour and Childbirth

Labour can be divided into three stages; first stage, second stage and third stage.

First stage is further divided into early (or latent) phase and active phase. It is in the latent phase when the uterus starts to contract regularly and gradually become more painful. However, not all women will notice these changes. When she goes to the active phase the contractions will be stronger, coming in more frequently as well as lasting longer. This is when the cervix dilating to 3cm or more. In the antenatal classes they will be taught how to identify the signs and symptoms that labour is about to begin and where to go to when they are in labour. They are also helped to plan for the hospital bag checklist to make preparations to bring with them for the purpose of labour and for the newborn baby when they are admitted into the hospital.

When in labour one of the main concern of women is the labour pain. No one can tell exactly how labor will feel for them before they actually go into labour. The antenatal class is a good opportunity to know beforehand the choices available so that when the pain becomes unbearable they know what they are when the options are offered to them.

Breathing excessive or breathing techniques during labour can be learned during the antenatal classes. Women will learn how to take deep breath which they can use to help them to relax. If they are so tensed up, the muscles will be fatigued, spends her energy and subsequently ended up in feeling very tired. Deep breathing technique allows more oxygen to get into her blood circulation which is definitely good for her baby in the womb.

Massage techniques are sometimes taught in the antenatal class to help woman relax in labour. Her husband can help to massage her shoulders, back, foot and hands and a good massage will release endorphin, which is a natural pain killer as well as a mood lifting substance. Once they are relaxed, they become less anxious and the contraction pain is more tolerable.

If they need additional help to manage her labour pain, Entonox is an option. It is a combination of oxygen and Nitrous oxide which will be inhaled by the woman. It is widely available in labour suites, easy to use and contains oxygen which is good for the baby. However, some women find that it is not enough to cope with the contractions since it is only a mild pain killer.

If the above cannot make the contractions manageable, the woman can choose Pethidine or Epidural. Pethidine is usually given together with medication to control vomiting because Pethidine can make women vomit. It is given in the first stage of labour not close to second stage because Pethidine makes the woman too sleepy and since it crosses placenta the baby will also be sleepy which can affect its breathing once it’s born. Epidural on the other hand does not make the woman in labour sleepy. This procedure will be performed by the anesthetist. It is given as an injection to the woman’s back in between the vertebra into the space outside the spinal cord in which a local anaesthetic agent will be administered. This will usually make her abdomen, legs and foot numb. Although it is a good pain relief, they may not be able to feel the sensation of pressure when they are in the second stage of labour. This can be dealt with reducing the infusion or stopping it for a short while to allow some sensation and muscle strength.

When the woman reached the second stage of labour, the uterus starts to push the baby down into the vagina. This is actually when the hard work begins when the woman will be encouraged to push together with the contractions. With each contractions and effort from the women, gradually the baby will descend and finally its head can be seen from the stretched vaginal opening. An episiotomy is usually performed especially for first time mothers. Women can discuss with their obstetrician if they feel they do not prefer it.

Not all women go through labour smoothly and some may have complications. In some situations, the Obstetrician may decide to expedite the birth of the baby and instruments such as Forceps and Vacuum will be used. These are usually described in detail so that if the woman needed to be assisted in the second stage of labour, she will be able to understand what the Obstetrician is referring to. For some women, a Cesarean section will be advised by the Obstetrician if the doctor feels that a normal vaginal delivery will put her or her baby at risk.

The third stage of labour is usually short in which most women do not aware of it and only having minimal discomfort. The third stage is when the placenta will be delivered.

Other things that women may like to find out are whether they can eat and drink in labor. Generally they are usually allowed to eat and drink but not a large portion of heavy meal but rather frequent small amount of snack.

There are several positions in labour that women can try to make themselves comfortable. However, for the delivery position, it will depend what is available in the hospital. That is why women need to find out beforehand the facilities available and they can formulate a realistic birth plan which they can discuss with their Obstetrician prior to their delivery.

article from here

EPIDURAL YES/NO?

2010-12-16T16:01:00.000+08:00

as all of you know already, i am pregnant with my second baby. its coming to 15 weeks already but im still having that bad nausea, which instantly kills a lot of my moods!

for this 2nd pregnancy, im trying to go all natural. i dont want any drugs to be inserted in my body be it pethidine, epidural even. my 1st born was all drug induced, which involved poking with needles, which i hate so much because i have phobia with needles. i bawl at the sight of needles! below are the pro's n con's of having an epidural, so that it will remind me of how i want my next delivery to be :

EPIDURAL

What is it?

It's an injection into the small of your back, using a curved, hollow needle. A needle with a curved tip goes between the vertebrae of your back, and into the space outside the coverings that surround your spinal cord called the epidural space. A fine tubing (or catheter) is passed through the needle and then the needle is removed. The fine catheter is taped up your back and over your shoulder. The anaesthetist injects a local anaesthetic (similar to what you would have at the dentist) into the catheter to numb the lower part of your abdomen. Generally, your legs and feet go numb as well. You can't feel your contractions any longer.

Sometimes, the catheter is attached to a small pump, which allows the anaesthetist to control how much local anaesthetic you have, or the pump may be primed to release a small dose of the anaesthetic every so many minutes.

How does it work?
It works in just the same way as a local anaesthetic works when the dentist numbs your mouth before extracting a tooth. The anaesthetic deadens the nerves which are carrying pain signals from your womb and cervix.

When should I have it?
Theoretically, you could have an epidural at any point in labour, even in the second stage when you are pushing your baby out, although a spinal anaesthetic would probably be offered in that situation.

Most people, however, choose to have an epidural when the cervix is about five to six centimetres dilated and the contractions are getting stronger. If you are as much as eight or nine centimetres dilated, you may be told that it's too late for an epidural and advised to manage without because your baby would be born soon.

What are the advantages of epidurals?
• More than 90 per cent of women get complete pain relief.
• Your mind remains totally clear.
• Can help to control high blood pressure.
• Can put you back in control of your labour, and restore your confidence.
• Epidurals are more sophisticated than they used to be and you might find that your legs and feet are not completely numb.

What are the disadvantages?
• May find that you are numb down only one side of your body or that a small part of your tummy has not been anaesthetised.
• May make you feel very shivery.
• You have to stay in bed.
• You need to have a drip in your arm. This is because epidurals make some women's blood pressure drop which may seriously affect the flow of oxygen to the baby. The drip is a safety precaution so that, in an emergency, the volume of your blood can be quickly boosted to bring your blood pressure back to normal again.
• You will probably have a catheter into your bladder. An epidural means you can't tell when you need to empty your bladder, so this has to be done automatically for you.
• You might feel very out of control. You have three tubes going into your body and you have to be told when to push if the anaesthetic hasn't worn off by the second stage of labour. Your obstetrician and nurse midwife effectively manage your labour for you.
• Epidurals can increase the length of labour, especially the pushing stage.
• Your baby's heartbeat will be monitored continuously, using a transducer strapped to your abdomen, or a smaller transducer clipped onto his scalp.
• There's a greater chance of needing to have a forceps or ventouse (also known as vacuum) delivery because epidurals often prevent the baby moving into the best position to be born. Also, it often stops you from feeling the urge to push in the second stage of labour.
• If the epidural needle goes beyond the epidural space, there will be a leakage of cerebro-spinal fluid after the tubing is taken out. This fluid buffers your brain and even a very small leak will give you a terrific headache. This is usually treated by taking a small amount of blood from your arm, perhaps the day after your baby is born, and injecting it into your back to seal the hole made by the epidural needle.
• Some women have problems passing urine after having an epidural.

Any useful tips?
• Keep very still while the anaesthetist is setting up the epidural. You will be on your side or sitting on the edge of the bed, leaning forward and curled up in a ball. Concentrate on your breathing. Breathe in deeply through your nose and sigh out slowly through your mouth. Hold your husband's hand and keep eye contact with him.
• Discuss with your obstetrician and nurse midwife the possibility of letting the epidural wear off for the second stage of labour when you are going to deliver your baby. Being able to feel the contractions will help you push more effectively.
• If you cannot feel any sensation of pressure during the second stage of labour, and/or if the epidural weakens your muscles, you may not be able to push effectively during the second stage. Slowing or stopping the infusion of epidural medication will help you regain some sensation and/or muscle strength. Additional doses can always be re-administered should the need arise.

article taken @ baby center malaysia

so yay or nay?

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2010-11-30T13:12:00.000+08:00

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CRAVINGS

2010-11-16T16:17:00.001+08:00

aahhhh...J.CO froyo. The super cool sensation of the froyo takes the nausea away...yippeeee!!

my pregnancy hormones is definately driving me nutsssss.

NKOTBSB-Backstreet Boys And New Kids On The Block Together On Tour 2011

2010-11-12T13:13:00.000+08:00

I AM PEEING IN MY PANTS!!!

please, please, pleaseeeeeeeee come down to South East Asia!

WE'RE PREGNANT

2010-10-15T13:53:00.001+08:00

2 pink lines means number 2 :)

An unexpected pregnancy but alhamdulillah, ini lah rezeki and i will go through it with open arms.

Now to get that pregnancy mojo back...i need to...wait, i HAVE to be a vouge pregnant momma!

Doa2kan kami.

POSITIVE THOUGHTS

2010-09-29T22:33:00.000+08:00

"Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don't. And beleive that everything happens for a reason...If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it would be easy...They just promised it would be worth it."

-OTH quote-

YOU'RE PERFECT, IN MY EYES...

2010-09-28T22:55:00.001+08:00

Sempurna - Andra & The Back Bone

Kau begitu sempurna
Dimataku kau begitu indah
Kau membuat diriku akan slalu memujimu

Disetiap langkahku
Kukan slalu memikirkan dirimu
Tak bisa kubayangkan hidupku tanpa cintamu

Janganlah kau tinggalkan diriku
Takkan mampu menghadapi semua
Hanya bersamamu ku akan bisa

Kau adalah darahku
Kau adalah jantungku
Kau adalah hidupku
Lengkapi diriku
Oh sayangku, kau begitu
Sempurna... Sempurna...

Kau genggam tanganku
Saat diriku lemah dan terjatuh
Kau bisikkan kata dan hapus semua sesalku

Janganlah kau tinggalkan diriku
Takkan mampu menghadapi semua
Hanya bersamamu ku akan bisa

Kau adalah darahku
Kau adalah jantungku
Kau adalah hidupku
Lengkapi diriku
Oh sayangku, kau begitu
Sempurna... Sempurna...

Kau genggam tanganku
Saat diriku lemah dan terjatuh
Kau bisikkan kata dan hapus semua sesalku

i love you...

SELAMAT HARI RAYA AIDILFITRI 2010

2010-09-10T00:00:00.016+08:00

"Kami sekeluarga ingin mengucapkan Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri dan Maaf Zahir & Batin kepada semua kaum keluarga dan sahabat handai dimana jua anda berada. Have a blessed Syawal with your loved ones. Remember, don't over-do on those rendangs, ketupats, raya cookies, ect...!!! Take care everyone."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-30

2010-09-09T00:00:00.005+08:00

"Allah menyuruh kita makan semua buah di syurga, minum air Kausar, mandi air salsabil (air syurga). Kerana Allah Tuhan kita dan kita Hamba Allah yang setia."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-29

2010-09-08T00:00:00.004+08:00

"Allah akan memberikan pahala kepada kita seperti kita menjalani ibadah haji 1,000 yang di terima Allah (haji mabrur)."

NIGHT PLAY

2010-09-07T22:33:00.001+08:00

@ dataran depan muzium shah alam. lotsa people here jugak, families with kids, teenagers with friends, ect...i think semua dah mood raya ni. also hearing in the background is an imam from arab, heading the terawikh prayers @ masjid. Merdu sungguh suara bila dia baca surah2 al-quran.

Sekali tengah type ni mirza lari menggelupur towards me menangis2!! Apsal? Sebab kene gigit semuat kat kaki! Dah merah2 kaki. Kesian la anak mummy ni...

Over and out!

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-28

2010-09-07T00:00:00.005+08:00

"Darjat kita akan dinaik 1,000 kali oleh Allah di dalam syurga kelak."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-27

2010-09-06T00:00:00.003+08:00

"Kita akan secepat kilat melewati Shiratal Mustaqim nanti."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-26

2010-09-05T00:00:00.004+08:00

"Allah akan mengangkat darjat amal kebaikan kita sebagaimana darjat amal kebaikan kita selama 40 tahun."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-25

2010-09-04T00:00:00.002+08:00

"Kita akan bebas dari seksa kubur."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-24

2010-09-03T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Allah akan mengabulkan 24 permohonan kita selagi kita masih hidup di dunia."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-23

2010-09-02T00:00:00.004+08:00

"Allah akan membuatkan sebuah kota untuk kita di dalam syurga."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-22

2010-09-01T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Kita akan merasa aman dan bahagia di saat hari kiamat, kerana kita akan terhindar dari rasa takut yang amat sangat."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-21

2010-08-31T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Allah akan membuatkan sebuah bangunan dari cahaya untuk kita di syurga."

HAPPY 6th BIRTHDAY BABY

2010-08-30T00:00:00.007+08:00

*image by lynahafiz

to our baby boy, you'll always be our baby.

ALWAYS.

happy birthday sayang!!!

love,
abah & mummy

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-20

2010-08-30T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Diberikan pahala kepada kita sesuai pahala para syuhada dan salihin."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-19

2010-08-29T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Allah akan mengangkat darjat kita ke Firdaus (syurga tertinggi)."

15 YEARS

2010-08-28T21:04:00.000+08:00

thank you.

here's to another 15+15+15+15+infinity years to come.

love you.

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-18

2010-08-28T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Malaikat akan memohon kepada Allah agar kita dan orang tua kita selalu mendapat restu."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-17

2010-08-27T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Allah akan memberikan pahala kepada kita sesuai pahala para Nabi."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-16

2010-08-26T00:00:00.002+08:00

"Kita akan menerima tulisan “selamat” dari Allah. Kita bebas masuk syurga dan lepas dari api neraka."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-15

2010-08-25T00:00:00.002+08:00

"Kita akan menerima salawat dari para malaikat, termasuk dari malaikat penjaga Arsy dan Kursi."

PARAM KOMPLEKS PKNS

2010-08-24T18:07:00.001+08:00

@ param kompleks now. Panasnyeee...!! But a lotta choice. Param @ 13 is massive with people. Tak sanggup nak redah panas2 ni dowhh...

40 TIPS FOR A HAPPY LIFE

2010-08-24T13:49:00.001+08:00

1. Walk for 10-30 minutes every day.

2. Sit in silence for at least 40 minutes each day.

3. Sleep for 8 hours. (Prefer to sleep from 10pm to 5am)

4. All ways be Energetic, Show enthusiasm and Empathy.

5. Play Your Favorite games.

6. Read good books.

7. Take time to practice Meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.

8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & with Children’s.

9. Dream more while you are awake.

10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

11. Drink plenty of water.

12. Try to make at least two people smile each day.

13. Don't waste your precious time and energy on gossip.

14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner or friends with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.

18. Always try to Smile and laugh more.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others, try to love others.

20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

21. Don’t try to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others.

24. You are incharge of your happiness; no one takes the charge

25. Always try to forgive everyone for everything.

26. What other people think of you is none of your business.

27. God is Supreme, GOD heals everything. All gods are Equal.

28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

29. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

30. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

31. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

32. Think always The best is yet to come.

33. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

34. Do the right thing every day.

35. Call your family often.

36. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

37. Each day give something good to others.

38. Don't over do. Keep your limits.

39. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.

40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about.

* article source

everyone needs a little bit of happines in their life...

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-14

2010-08-24T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Para malaikat memberikan kesaksian solat terawih kita, dan Allah tidak menghisab kita."

WEBSITE BANNER DESIGN SERVICES

2010-08-23T14:44:00.000+08:00

want a banner for your web/blog/facebook/twitter site but dont know how to design? LynaHafizDesign provides banner services from as low as RM10. kindly email me for more details at lynahafiz[at]gmail[dot]com or leave a comment here. thanx.

help me, to help you as well :)

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-13

2010-08-23T00:00:00.001+08:00

"Pada hari kiamat, kita akan terbebas dari ketakutan yang membuat manusia sedih."

THE MAGIC OF KURMA @ DATES

2010-08-22T15:16:00.002+08:00

Penawar Racun

Diriwayat oleh Aishah r.a. yang menjelaskan, kurma mengandungi ubat. "Jika sesiapa yang selalu makan kurma akan dihindari daripada terkena racun yang dimakan."

this is just a part of its magic. more can be read about buah kurma @ dates here.

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-12

2010-08-22T00:00:00.002+08:00

"Pada hari kiamat, kita akan bangkit dengan wajah cemerlang seperti bulan"

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-11

2010-08-21T00:00:00.000+08:00

"Dihapuskannya dosa kita bila meninggal seperti kita baru keluar dari perut ibu."

LAWAK HARI JUMAAT

2010-08-20T13:56:00.001+08:00

Q : Why did the chewing gum cross the road?
A : It was stuck to the leg of a chicken.

Q : What did the astronaut see in his frying pan?
A : An unidentified frying object!

Q : Why did the rooster cross the road?
A : To prove he was'nt chicken.

Q : What has four wheels and flies?
A : A garbage truck!

Q : Why did the dinosaur cros the road?
A : Because there were no chickens back then.

Q :What did the sea say to the sand?
A : Nothing, it just waived.

Q : Did you hear about the man who lost his whole left side?
A : He's all-right now!

Q : What do frogs like to eat with their hamburgers?
A : French flies!

Q : What do you call a sleeping bull?
A : A bulldozer.

Q : What kind of snack do little monkeys have with their milk?
A : Chocolate chimp cookies.

Q : What did one tube of glue say to the other tube of glue?
A : We have to stick together.

Q : What do you say when you meet a two-headed monster?
A : Hello, hello.

hope this made you smile. cheer up peeps. weekends' near :)

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-10

2010-08-20T00:00:00.002+08:00

"Allah akan memberikan kebahagiaan dunia dan akhirat."

NEW FOUND LOVE

2010-08-19T21:48:00.001+08:00

This is a new found love :)

Now if only i could make it on my own...some say macaroons are a tad hard to make. Is it true?

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-9

2010-08-19T00:00:00.000+08:00

"Akan di berikan pahala kepada kita sesuai ibadah seorang Nabi."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE-8

2010-08-18T00:00:00.002+08:00

"Diberikan pahala kepada kita seperti pahala yang diberikan kepada Nabi Ibrahim AS."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE 7

2010-08-17T00:00:00.003+08:00

"Diberikan pahala untuk kita seperti pahala orang yang ikut Nabi Musa AS melawan Firaun dan Haman."

EAT, PRAY, LOVE

2010-08-16T11:52:00.000+08:00

Eat, Pray, Love

i wanna do this too, one fine day...

let yourself go.

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE 6

2010-08-16T10:00:00.002+08:00

"Diberikan pahala untuk kita sebagai mana pahala mereka yang tawaf di Baitulmakmur, Dan seluruh batu dan bata pada bangunan itu memintakan ampunan atas dosa2 kita."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE 5

2010-08-15T00:00:00.004+08:00

"Diberikan pahala untuk kita sebagaimana pahala orang yang menjalankan solat di Masjidil Haram Makkah, Masjid Nabawi Madinah, Dan Masjidil Aqsha Palestina."

THE BIG FAMILY OF KIDS

2010-08-14T15:17:00.000+08:00

went to an orpahange today.

could'nt help but shed a tear...

met with the founder, a husband & wife, who hails from London, who beleives very much in what they are doing for these kids. they have an orphanage with the same name in the UK, and will be opening another one soon, with the same name, here in sungai buloh, when there is enough donations. they just need contributions to make the building, as the land that the orphanage will be built, is already accquaired. in other words, donated.

i pray that all of you will grow up to be a somebody one day. the hardships that you've been through, will be blessed with happiness, insyaallah.

hanya mendoakan yang terbaik untuk semua.

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE 4

2010-08-14T00:00:00.003+08:00

"diberikan pahala untuk kita sebagaimana pahala orang2 yg telah membaca Taurat, Injil, Zabur dan Al-Quran."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE 3

2010-08-13T00:01:00.001+08:00

"Malaikat dari arsy mohon kepada Allah agar diterima ibadah kita, serta di hapuskan dosa2 yang telah lewat."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI KE 2

2010-08-12T00:00:00.006+08:00

"Allah menghapuskan dosa kita dan ke dua orang tua kita bila mereka mukmin."

JANJI PAHALA PUASA HARI 1

2010-08-11T17:11:00.001+08:00

"Allah menghapuskan dosa kita seperti kita baru di lahirkan dari perut ibu."

RAMADHAN 2010

2010-08-11T00:00:00.000+08:00

Selamat Menyambut Ramadhan. Semoga diberkati Allah SWT. Amin.

BIRTHDAY EVE 2010

2010-07-29T21:21:00.000+08:00

thank you Allah, for giving me another 'extension' in life tomorrow. alhamdulillah.

32 years younger (in a few hours time) and still going strong.

deep down in my heart, i wish that my birthday wishes since a decade ago, will become a reality tomorrow...

...but until that time comes...

i want PAVLOVA or RED VELVET for my birthday cake :)

FOR MY BABY

2010-07-13T22:08:00.001+08:00

*image from postsecret

...in hopes that one day when you look back into my post when you are older, u will know that i did try my best...

i love you, my baby boy.

OMG

2010-06-30T18:02:00.000+08:00

on loop, currently!!!

Usher will be in Malaysia on 7th July 2010 ;)

Oh My Gosh (OMG) - Usher ft. Will.i.am

THANK YOU ALLAH

2010-06-28T13:45:00.000+08:00

for giving that light and courage to move on.

...never turn back...

LIFE

2010-06-21T17:05:00.000+08:00

i love you, baby...

MAKE-UP BY LANCOME

2010-06-05T12:00:00.016+08:00

another free make-up session by Lancome in conjunction with their 75th anniversary, thanx to CLEO Magazine Malaysia :)

weehoo imma' have a preppy time today.

MY INTENDED LIFE

2010-06-02T10:00:00.000+08:00

hello everyone. how u all doin? hoping that every bit of happines are with you :)

as for me, i'm doing fine, i guess. i've been in a very calm mood since last week because i finally got to know why it has been a very bumpy road for me in search of a job. there was this one interview i went to, had a little chat and i came out from the interview, a new woman. no, i did'nt score the job. infact, the interview finally made me realize on something, and i thank you for it. given the circumstances, i realize that, it's hard for a woman my age, and is married with a kid, to score a job because employers do not want to take a risk in hiring someone who has fully committed to family, in my case, took a break from working. because i know, i have a lot to catch up and employers are'nt willing to waste time on that. it's risky and a waste of time to them. in my line of career, working hours are very odd, very odd indeed. and already having a family means, being at odd hours are sometimes imposibble at times, especially for women. it's ok for a family guy to be working at odd hours because they bring food to the table for the family, but not for a women. i don't blame them, not at all because i know in the end, it's all about business. but what i don't like is that, at some of the interviews i went to, i've been down-graded to an extend where i get so low self-esteemed by them. some of them even enquire me to be a 'flower-pot', just to secure a contract. i'm not gonna elaborate on what 'flower-pot' means since i think mostly everybody know what it means. sometimes i ask myself :

"kalau aku tak pakai make-up lawa2, dress-up biase aje and rambut warna hitam, rasanya boleh tak dapat kerja?"

or

"kalau aku pakai baju kurung and pakai tudung lawa2, dapat tak kerja ni?"

or

"is it a sin for a woman to be taking a break from her career for a few years, to raise her kid? and when she finally is ready to go back to work again, no employers dares to hire because of the long hiatus and commitment she has?"

...i think about it to that extend and it's not normal.

but at the end of the day, i know that how ever you impress yourself on the interview, regardless of your first impression, courage and determination is the key. maybe to them, i'm not that good in terms of designing. maybe i'm not that up-to-date with the current design trends, maybe i'm not 'strong' enough (given by me looking frail physically, which i'm not because i was already born like this) to be working in a fast-paced environment.

but i did try. and i know my designs are up to par.

just that sometimes i don't understand why i can't be given a chance.

no, i have'nt gave up just yet. just that right now, i will not pressure myself in trying to find a job because it has been too stressful for me this past few months. and i can't take good care of my family when i'm too stressful. i get annoyed easily. now, i'm just going to let life fall to it's place accordingly.

...and, if this is the life that Allah has intended for me to live by (by not allowing me to have a job now), then i will succumb to His wishes for i know, He has other plans for me...i give myself entirely to Him...

but in the near future if i do get a job, then i'll know that maybe it will be the right job for me, because Allah has made it so long for me to wait for it. maybe that will be the one.

for now, i'll just do my freelance jobs. although i know it is kind of slow (one small job per month or two), but designing is my passion and i'll work on it for as long as i can. maybe i could'nt make a career out of it, but the passion is there and that's what counts.

think positive, in able to get on with life and insyaallah, akan adalah rezeki itu...

may the best be with all of you. amin.

MIRZA SOLAT

2010-05-31T12:03:00.000+08:00

nak tengok dia solat sampai mummy dia pun tersasul-sasul!!! LOL